You would think that at 38 I would be wiser when it came to matters of the heart, if anything I think I might be even more naive now than ever before. So whatever happened to boy meets girl, they fall in love and live happily after? The kind of love our parents and grandparents had. The shared struggle be it emotional or financial.
Flooded with thoughts of why I have gotten it wrong all these years, and thinking that maybe I haven’t, maybe society has. Everyone that enters into a relationship these days, without doubt questions “what’s in it for me.” What if what’s in it is just Love, is that enough? Maybe I am just a hopeless romantic waiting for my Prince Charming to come and wake me from my past hauntings.
Only I am very aware that my past hauntings scare most potential suitor’s away lol and it will take a strong God fearing man to find my heart and keep it. Whilst I write this I am having an interesting conversation about love with someone close to me. She is beside herself that her boyfriend wanted her to have lunch with his family, as I attempt to console her, I think what I wouldn’t give to have someone feel I’m important enough to have lunch with his family. The simple things we overlook because we want tangible proof of love. Love is not defined by chocolates, flowers, gifts or expensive dinners. Love for me is defined by thoughts beyond materialistic gestures. It’s more of I will follow you to the ends of the earth no matter what! But hey if you find someone that gives you both, then you amongst the fortunate few.
I suppose the context of this blog is really to illustrate that we are all different and see expressions of love differently. So if he didn’t take you out today (Valentine’s Day), think about all the other times he did, the times he made you laugh just because, the times he held your hand when you were scared. The times he checked up on you just to make sure you arrived safe at your destination. Love is not clearly defined with a set of rules. Love is just that……it’s Free! To experience free love we must be willing to give love selflessly, with no boundaries, conditions or limitations. Love cannot survive unless it is free. The moment you question or doubt the love you giving or receiving, walk away.
My absolute favorite verse from the bible about love: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
May we all be fortunate in this life to know love the way God intended us to. “My own will come to me under grace in a perfect way” because I am loved by the King of Kings! #aprincessinhiskingdom